The best friend who says.

I’ve always been the friend that always “say”, not because I’m opinionated, but I do give good advice. Though this may sound like it not such a good thing, I’ve found a way to give my opinion without controlling the situation. This is something that most “best friends fail to do.

You can ask any of my friends, if they ever wanted any advice from me, I always tell them what I think, and let them know that at the end of the day, its ultimately their decision and I can only support their choice whether I agree or disagree. Even if I have never been in that situation, I use examples from life experiences that my family members go through. I try my hardest not to mislead anyone.  Any advice I give is in their best interest.

So I have this one friend who was in a sticky situation, expecting a child. Now I know the life state that this person was in and it was my opinion that it wasn’t best for them to bring a child in the world if they can barely take care of themselves. Now, I am NOT pro abortion but I am pro Choice.  This person said that others they have told felt that it was selfish to have an abortion and that it would be good for them to keep the child. I told her to ask them if they would be there if she was at her lowest, would they be there to help her out.

I then told her to take a look at their financial situation, their living condition at home and really think about how selfish it would be to raise a child in a situation like that. Every day this person complains about money, food and trying to live on their own.  Those who know me know that I have about 3725709270957809850985 cousins and I can testify that babies aren’t cheap! They felt that their significant other was stable enough but wasn’t ready for a child.

Ding!  Right after that I said “look if they aren’t ready for a child now, in 9 months they would be even less ready and God knows how long it would take for them to ready, raising a child single is very hard. If you are not mentally prepared for what is about to take place then you need not to go forth”.

But all they could think about is how cute the baby would be if it was born, but then how even more broke they would be, then whose hair the baby would have and then no more trips out of town. As a close friend, I ended the conversation by telling them that it’s not about what I say, or their other friends say, its barely about what how the guy would feel, since this was the 2^nd time they were in this situation, you have to know what right for you and at the end of the day, I will support the decision you make. You will know when you are ready for a child, I told her. Then I begged them to use contraceptives, birth control mainly since they refuse to use condoms, smh.

Disclaimer: But to all those reading this, I would like to say that this  is only the view of me, the writer, this is not the view of , or an view associated with what NolabelsBklyn is about. I DO believe in Choice and I will/do not push my views on to others. In this story, whatever was done after that, was the person’s choice.

I believe in safe sex, and I encourage all to use all methods out there to avoid being in this situation. Abortion isn’t the only option 1^st option . If you can stop it before it gets to that, the better.

Thank you.