Emotion Warzone.

So I never really understood what the real difference between following your heart or using your mind was to justify various situations, until I met “him”. I met this guy many years ago and although we never were in a “titled” relationship, we were good friends with benefits of course.  Till this day I question what it was that I felt for him, and if it was real or just my imagination of what kind of relationship I thought I was in.
 

After some years passed I even found myself using that dreaded four-letter word that either creates a beautiful world or destroys it! I honestly don’t know if that word came out my mouth because I thought it or because I felt it. I do know that there is a major difference, and when it’s hard to distinguish the difference that there’s a possibility both your heart and mind is in action simultaneously.
When I told him that I loved him I do believe that a huge part of it came from my heart, but my gut wasn’t all the way in sync with my thoughts about him. I may have just like the “idea” of being in love and psyched myself into thinking I meant it. My mind was in full control at this point.
 

I know this sounds off the wall and f#%^ed up, but I was a teenager and I never experienced using the word “love” with someone who wasn’t related to me. It was all new to me, but I really feel that you can confuse using your mind, to think you really care for someone, versus using your heart to solidify that there’s something deeper than just caring in existence. 
 

I’m still young and learning this whole emotion thing, but I know that when I follow my heart, based on my experiences, I am usually in the right direction.

Mind blowing, Heart slowing.

I could never tell if I liked this person or if I was just distracted by all of the mind blowing sex we were having. Any simple touch he gave me drove me crazy. Even the way he said my name did something to me.We only knew each other for a month  but by the 5th day we were already in lust. The physical/sexual attraction was just to strong to hold back, so I gave in .

3 months later, I began to realize that the only thing that was getting better between us was the sex . He couldn't offer me nothing more or nothing less. My mind was telling me I really wanted him but my heart was not letting him in.

I hated his personality but I still hung around him anyway. He didn't understand me and he was so judgmental but, I put up with him anyway just because of the sex.
I tried to force a situation that just wasn't happening at this point and I realized that we would NEVER be more than just great sex .

A look back.

This poem is for any one who has ever hurt you, whether that's family, friends, boy friend/ girl friend. It's for the times when your heart tells you to move on but your mind is convinced it will be different. I just ask you to take a look back...

Every time I thought I wanted to be with you,
You once again proved to me the reasons why I've never went back; contemplating thoughts of love but being wanted is a fact.

Is it that what calls me in to a slumber
Have me dazed and confused like the first days of summer?
Hot and bothered
I take a dip
In the pool of you
While my heart stands there out on limb
I'm scared but I don't turn back
Awaken by your voice
The noise and the scratch
The attack of empathy.
I see in your eyes the tears , the joy, the anger that you cry
I find that it isn't my duty to comply
  Of course I love you, I can't lie
But are you really what I need in my life?
I had you once don't need you twice
Let's not forget why it ended the first time...

Let's check: The Lies
The Friends you heavily relied
On 

Or forget about me that's fine
Looking good for who ever
But Thought I was your baby
I guess I found out the truth
Cause you sure had me fooled
Silly of me
Silly of we
To ever think this will work again
I take a look back so I understand why we must be friends
Cause my heart can't deal with the pain
And this is so for real
Even though its hard to swallow
Like a big *ss pill
I think you make me better but I only get worse
Now that I now my purpose,
This look back made me look deep in the blues like the ocean
I see it how I call it..
 Now it time I  move forward...

Nothing worth something comes easy.

Trying to figure out if I love you with my mind...or with my heart. If its my mind then this is just temporary. But I don't think the amount of time we've been involved would be considered temporary. And if this were temporary, why couldn't I let it go? Why can't we stay away from each other? I guess that only means one thing. Its my heart that I love you with. I know the feelings are mutual. Something told me to keep going & not to give up on you ; & I did. This is definitely something special. We are probably meant to be, you never know. We are the right people, at the wrong time, but I won't let something like 'time' get in the way of our love. It has to come around at one point & I guess our hearts will be the judge of that. Even when you make me upset, disappoint me,  make me cry, hurt, and are distant, my feelings never change. Nothing worth something comes easy. I'm ready for the complexity, and hardships that will hit us because I know that after every storm comes a sunny day. You have me, all of me and I'm not afraid to admit it. My heart needs you and I just hope that yours needs mine too. Soon you will realize that I'm on your side and will never do anything to hurt you. I want you to give me your all no questions asked because from day one that's all I ever did for you. Heart vs. Mind ...my heart won .

The best friend who says.

I’ve always been the friend that always “say”, not because I’m opinionated, but I do give good advice. Though this may sound like it not such a good thing, I’ve found a way to give my opinion without controlling the situation. This is something that most “best friends fail to do.

You can ask any of my friends, if they ever wanted any advice from me, I always tell them what I think, and let them know that at the end of the day, its ultimately their decision and I can only support their choice whether I agree or disagree. Even if I have never been in that situation, I use examples from life experiences that my family members go through. I try my hardest not to mislead anyone.  Any advice I give is in their best interest.

So I have this one friend who was in a sticky situation, expecting a child. Now I know the life state that this person was in and it was my opinion that it wasn’t best for them to bring a child in the world if they can barely take care of themselves. Now, I am NOT pro abortion but I am pro Choice.  This person said that others they have told felt that it was selfish to have an abortion and that it would be good for them to keep the child. I told her to ask them if they would be there if she was at her lowest, would they be there to help her out.

I then told her to take a look at their financial situation, their living condition at home and really think about how selfish it would be to raise a child in a situation like that. Every day this person complains about money, food and trying to live on their own.  Those who know me know that I have about 3725709270957809850985 cousins and I can testify that babies aren’t cheap! They felt that their significant other was stable enough but wasn’t ready for a child.

Ding!  Right after that I said “look if they aren’t ready for a child now, in 9 months they would be even less ready and God knows how long it would take for them to ready, raising a child single is very hard. If you are not mentally prepared for what is about to take place then you need not to go forth”.

But all they could think about is how cute the baby would be if it was born, but then how even more broke they would be, then whose hair the baby would have and then no more trips out of town. As a close friend, I ended the conversation by telling them that it’s not about what I say, or their other friends say, its barely about what how the guy would feel, since this was the 2^nd time they were in this situation, you have to know what right for you and at the end of the day, I will support the decision you make. You will know when you are ready for a child, I told her. Then I begged them to use contraceptives, birth control mainly since they refuse to use condoms, smh.

Disclaimer: But to all those reading this, I would like to say that this  is only the view of me, the writer, this is not the view of , or an view associated with what NolabelsBklyn is about. I DO believe in Choice and I will/do not push my views on to others. In this story, whatever was done after that, was the person’s choice.

I believe in safe sex, and I encourage all to use all methods out there to avoid being in this situation. Abortion isn’t the only option 1^st option . If you can stop it before it gets to that, the better.

Thank you.

I consider.

I consider myself a good friend.

Label me your best friend and I will take on the duties I think a best friend is to carry out.

So what happens when I see your girl out with another girl?

Yes, you’re my best guy friend. I'm just hoping that I am the last to know about your girl and her friendly girl friend or shall I say girlfriend.

I'm hoping that it's alright with you if they're passionately holding hands.

I'm hoping that you allow friendly lip to lip, tongue to tongue action.

I'm hoping that it's acceptable to hear "You're the only one who has my heart."

I'm hoping that the ring you gave her is in the jewelry store because the size is wrong.

I'm hoping there's another guy name Leo besides you whose call she just neglected to answer.

I'm hoping that the years you spent together was worth it.  If so it seems like a pretty covenant relationship.

I'm just hoping that I'm not the one to tell you the truth, because she is of course my best friend too.

Live a little.

Sometimes it really hard to live in the present, and convince yourself that everything will be okay in the end. I think most people get caught up in the constant expectations they have for themselves or close loved ones that they forget how to just live for the moment, and not stress. I personally expect nothing but the best from myself, and I can admit that it is hard to accept failure when it comes. This only results in me becoming upset, and that is definitely not necessary.

My best friend knows me sometimes better than I know myself, and he never fails to give me advice when I need it. He's always telling me to chill, relax my *#% lol, and live a little. Life is too short, and if you let the little things hinder your mood you'll pay the price of being frustrated. It's not worth it!

So now I'm installing a "go with the flow" attitude, and I plan on rocking my twenties out real hard!

What is your definition of a best friend, and why?

Answer the questions below and write the reason why. (You ARE allowed to choose as many as you like, just provide your reasons for choosing the ones you chose.) Then, choose which ones best describes your best friend.

A. Someone who gets real close to you, who you begin to trust and then you find out they are messing with your boyfriend/girlfriend behind your back.

B. Someone who is trustworthy and whom you are comfortable with to discuss anything in between embarrassing moments, sex, and your deepest secrets.

C. Someone who is there to bash the decisions you make; who have never been in the same situation.

D. A Fake Bitch.

E. Someone who you are capable of falling in love with.

F. Someone who will tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear no matter how much it may hurt.

G. Someone who is a tip drill .

H. Someone who isn’t always available but will go out of their way when you are hurt or really need someone.

I. Someone you kissed before.

J. Someone who says "I hate you" and you’re able to reply "no you don’t!"

K. Someone who you know probably better than they know themselves.

L. A hoe.

M. Someone who you talk to all day and feel weird if you go without talking to for 2 hours.

N. Someone who is pretty.

O. Someone who fights for you even if you were wrong.

P. Someone who forgives you for doing something stupid to them.

Q. Someone who shakes their ass in the club on Thursday nights.

R. Someone who is always trying prove how much "better" they are then you.

S. Someone who always wants to smoke but they can’t buy weed.

T. Someone who will always catch you no matter how far you've fallen.

U. Someone you get drunk with and screw on a regular basis.

V. Someone who wears no draws.

W. Someone whose house you can walk in without them, say hi to the family and go look in the fridge.

X. Someone who wears little mismatched socks.

Y. Someone who complains to you about their flat stomachs being fat -_-.

Z. You.

Now, depending on your answer, would you listen when, “Your Best Friend Say”?

**This was made to help you re define some of your “best friend relationships”