Over and Over again.

Throughout high school they tell you about it. They tell you that you’re going to have to deal with someday. What they don’t tell you is how difficult it’s going to be to make. The results from it will be great, but the process of creating it is long and aggravating. Sometimes, you have to do the process over and over and over until you get it right. The only thing bout it is, you will never know when it’s right.

This thing, this little piece of paper will determine if you get a job or not. It’s your first impression, it’s your RESUME. This will get you in or keep you out of a company. How can you know who I am from a sheet? How could you really know if I’m good worker if you never seen me or watch me work? I never understood this. But even if I don’t understand it, I face the fact that your resume will make or break you.

The few years of work, various activities, and awards won are reasons that Oprah is where she is, the reason that Actors get jobs, musicians book gigs. Your accomplishments tell employers about you. It says a lot about where you’re at, where you want to be and where you’re going. It’s the path way to your future.

I personally changed my resume 152736746983792582 thousand times and counting. When will it be right? I really don’t know. I guess it’s when I get my dream position, or maybe it will never be right. All I know that we all have to try our best to make our resumes stand out. To make them sparkle out the bunch. I suggest trying different ways to spice it up, see which way works (which resume gets the most call backs). Make sure you re-read your resume over and over again. You don’t want any errors that can really harm you. Ask others for suggestion, it doesn’t hurt.

You can do it, be confident and show it through your resume because that can honestly be your first and last impression.

Dead giveaway.

They say the 1^st impression is a giveaway. Believe it or not it is a give away to me. I mean you don’t want to come off as someone egotistic, inconsiderate, overbearing, and needy or an excessive talker. As well as meeting someone else whose attributes are like those describe in the second sentence or even consisting of more than those described. I want to be around someone who I can be comfortable with; who I can see myself keeping a long friendship with. Sometimes, I meet the coolest guys who I just want to be friends with and nothing more, but sometimes I feel as I can’t because they sometimes come off as being too flirtatious, annoying, needy and hostile.

I like to be able to have a few male friends who don’t just see me as someone that they need to get involved with, but to get to know as a friend and possible create a new friendship. I’m not saying that it doesn’t exist in my life, because I have a lot of male friends who are strictly my friends and nothing more. However, when I meet new ones that I think are humorous and laid back in the beginning, I potentially want to make them a friend.

I am an observant individual and I observe the people who come into my life. I want to know who I can feel comfortable around and who makes me uncomfortable. I met these two guys from school, friend A I had class with, then he introduced me to friend B. Both came off as flirtatious especially Friend B. Friend A, is a funny dude, someone I can introduce to my other friends. Friend B, has known me for only three weeks, and he tells me that I should NOT be wearing mascara, eyeliner, I look better if I don’t wear makeup (I honestly know how I look with or without makeup; I love makeup).

Another day I decided to get my hair done with WEAVE. He says, “Your hair wasn’t like that last Thursday (indeed it wasn’t), I say, “Yes it was I think I know how I did my hair” He says, I doubt it, not when we were riding the train together, your hair looks better before you don’t need weave” I said, “Well it sounds personal (I laugh, he laughs) He says, “Seriously you look better without it.” I value people’s opinion, but when you’re constantly telling me about my appearance, it makes it seems as if I am here to please you when I am not. Especially if it’s about something that doesn’t affect your life, you shouldn’t be so concerned!

On another school day friend B texted me, “Where are you?” I say, “On my way to class”  he writes “hurry up, and get out of class I have a two hour break and I’m bored” I write, “Go to the library, I obviously can’t chill because I have class” he writes, “Just hurry.”(I mean, I like knowing that someone wants my company, but I am not going to be your entertainment just because you’re BORED. It’s like inviting someone to a party that they agree to attend but doesn’t bother to socialize with anyone else but expects you to be by their side the entire night to entertaining them).

Friend B texted me one night (But I was busy typing a paper), Friend A, calls me because he didn’t understand the homework which is the homework that I was doing. (This is not an excuse. I really was typing a paper people lol). The next day all three of us were outside talking. We started talking about strippers (LOL) friend A said, “If they aren’t working it at my party, I’m throwing pennies” Friend B says (with a little cocky attitude) “Yea, Yea, You know you, but I make it rain with twenties” ( I just laughed) Friend A says to me “So are we gonna jones on the phone like yesterday” (I laughed, because we weren’t “jonesing” on the phone lol) I said, “I said we already spoke yesterday” (We both laughed, because he knows & I know that we talked about the homework and that was it.)

After talking I had to leave to go to class. I gave each one a hug friend A’s hug was tight and long (Straight face lol) Friend B, had a nonchalant attitude, the hug was like a half hug (I don’t even know what to call it, LOL) he whispers to me, “Oh, you guys were on the phone, huh?” (He looked at me with the serious face I just left; I was running late for class but I was a little thrown off by that) Should I have told him why I was on the phone? Or even get straight to the point of how uncomfortable his behavior has been making me feel? (Because that attitude should be DENIED, LOL)

Don't be difficult.

The first time I met you, it was almost unreal. It was a feeling that was truly unfamiliar. I started to become in love with the idea of you being in my life. I wanted you around all the time. You gave me a reason to laugh & smile all day long. Then we started to have bad experiences with each other. You started being in and out of my life and I was letting you.


At first, you pulled me in instantly with the greatest feeling ever and how comfortable I became with you surrounding me. Now I'm just afraid of anything you have to offer because truth be told, there's only two ways this could end up. This feeling isn't of constant. It is off and on as hell. I know you’re capable of either making me or breaking me. So (LOVE) the next time I am presented with an opportunity to f*ck with you, I think I'll pass… oh and do me a favor don't be difficult just let me go. Thank you!

NOT QUITE!

• Quiet
• Mean
• Attitude
• Shy
• Bitch
• anti-social
• Mute
• Nerd
• Stylish
• Quiet
• Mean
• Prissy
• Bossy.
• Independent with the demeanor of an R&B singer.

Nine times out of ten, people admit their first impression of me was wrong.

Quiet? Sometimes.

Attitude? Not quite,

Shy? Perhaps.

Bitch? If I want to be.

Prissy? Definitely not.

 …And so forth. I ALWAYS get shy or a bitch because I choose not to speak to people or share anything about myself until I feel comfortable enough to disclose information. I'd rather keep to myself and mind my own business so people assume I'm shy, and since I observe more than speak, I have an attitude. It’s nothing against anyone because I love meeting new people but people always tend to tell me this is the vibe I give off. I often laugh about it because someone’s first impression can ultimately make or break a possible friendship so since I give off funky vibes you'd think I didn't have any friends, wrong. People ultimately realize their first impression of me was off the wall and a book can't always be judged by its cover because nine times out of ten, FIRST impressions are merely wrong. 

When first meeting someone...

Hmm…first impressions; there are so many different things to be said about first impressions.  I’ve had cases where the first impression told me everything I needed to know about a person, and other times where it didn’t even scratch the surface of the person’s character. First impressions MUST be taken into account when meeting someone, a lot of times people like to give others the benefit of the doubt, no, not acceptable.

To the ladies, if you meet a guy in a party and he only asked you for your number after he just grinded on you for the last 4 reggae songs (-_-); you can bet your last dollar that nothing meaningful will come out of that new contact. I would guess that he’s probably interested in something more physical, than emotional, just a guess though.

To the fellas, that girl that just stared you down while she was walking in holding hands with that naïve young man; yeah, don’t waste your time. You were just the “cooler guy” at the moment. Once you get her and she sees that “cooler guy” again, tootles. This may sound harsh but in most cases it’s true.

When first meeting someone, you have to factor in things like where you met this person and on what grounds. This can help you figure out a person’s motives from jump. First impressions are the lasting ones, so if I met you drunk out your mind, I’m going to remember you as an alchy. If I met you and your breath was humming, it’s going to take a whole lot of Orbit to make me forget it. Okay, so I’m being a bit anal, sue me, I’m only being so blunt ‘cause I love you. If the first impression isn’t a good one, it’ll turn into the last memory, so make it a good one.

DISCLAIMER: This is only a small guideline, not a 100% proof way of judging a person, you still must allow the person a chance to reveal him or herself to you.

What you SEE is what you Get.

In the world of fashion first impressions is everything and will make or break how far you make it in the industry. I am a firm believer of inside beauty but I work in an area where image is majorly important.

Sometimes your first impression will be your last so it is crucial to make it the best it can possibly be. I’ve encountered this challenge of making the first time right while interviewing for various internships. You never know what your competition is bringing to the table so I always make sure I bring my “A” game with a “can do” attitude. Besides that my outer appearance plays a huge part on the impact I will make on my potential employers. In my case presenting myself as fashion forward is expected, but for those who may not be just simply appearing neat and sleek always seals the deal as well.

Some would probably object that appearance matters, but we must recognize that our firsts thoughts of others develop when we lay our eyes upon them before any words are exchanged. It isn’t right to judge prematurely but I do feel we naturally do so at times.

Opinions are then formed and sometimes can be hard to change even with a shining personality. So when I had the opportunity to interview for my dream position I made sure that I not only knew my resume inside and out, but I also looked like I OWNED the position already. If you look it, talk it, and breathe it you’ll BE it in no time! 

Things aren't always what they seem.

Are first impressions always lasting impressions? I must say I've met a couple of people who completely turned me off by our first encounter. After awhile, I begin to actually warm up to them and realize that I had the wrong impression.

I had to figure this out after they way I judged my very best friend. This person has been my best friend for a long time but, the first time we met I did not take to her. I now understand the reasons why I really disliked her. It was because I didn't understand her and I've grown to appreciate her personality.

When meeting someone for the first time being rude is not an option, also name calling and joking because it shows a sense of being comfortable and that's not always a good thing. I even get called rude. Nine times out of ten, people get the wrong idea about me.  When we first meet, they tend to feel like I'm snobby and stuck up. But that’s never the case; I just try not to seem too comfortable. Plus, it part of my persona.

I've decided that I wouldn't use someone's first impression to judge their character because things aren't always what they seem.